Is divorce a sin if no one was unfaithful?

[tamor]

Originally Posted by Michlow

Well, we got married at the court house, and I don't think that was actually part of the vows...but yeah, I get your point.

In my case, I do not believe it to be a sin, and to be honest, God doesn't weigh heavily into the equation. I think it all comes down to my personal integrity. I'm not a quitter, and I am not the type to dump my problems for someone else to take care of.

I think the biggest struggle is always trying to stay postive. I am still young, I have a long life ahead of me (knock on wood), potentially 40 to 50 years. That is a really long time to be in a empty marriage. More than anything I am afraid that I will wake up in 20 years and feel like I spent the best years of my life in a prison of my own making. And yet, I don't want to fall prey to "the grass is greener" syndrome.

That I can understand.

I felt alot of the same sentiments in my first marriage. I tried so hard to keep things together and to "protect" my ex-husband's name and image.

Like you, I did not want to fall to the grass is greener syndrome, but I also wondered what it would be like when the girls were grown and gone. My situation just got to a point that the things I was trying to keep my girls from finding out were being exposed by others. I chose to remove them and myself from the situations that I had been living, and to try to provide a clean, christian atmosphere for them for their last few years at home.