Backslid husband

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Originally Posted by bcriswell86

Let me say, thanks for all your post. However, though every marriage has their spurts, ours didn't begin until my husband left the church. You see, I live in an area, where they are maybe 1, 2 if you are blessed apostolic churches in a 30 mile radius of one another, so jumping from church to church is definitely not a source of resolve. Our problem however lies in the fact that my husband came from a church in MS, where his uncle is pastor, and I was born into a church where my uncle is now pastor, when we married my husband left his church in MS. Though both churches are apostolic, founded on apostolic principles and Biblical truth---my husband finds fault in the way certain members of our church conduct themself when they aren't in the church, or the way some certain issues aren't dealt with from the pulpit, when it could possibly be that they are dealt with behind closed doors. Anyways, I have often told my husband, since we aren't or never have been in a vital part of the ministry of our church it is not our place to say anything, and it isn't. I think if there are problems with certain individuals it should be dealt with by the Pastor, not other members. With that being said, he pretty much thinks my church isn't good enough so that justifies him not going. I love him unconditionally, no doubt. But I do not believe my relationship with him is above my relationship with God. I'm not going to be standing in front of my husband on judgment day, but I will be standing before God. My husband is a completely different person now that he is out of church, so that is where the strain on the marriage comes in at. I'm sure that I have caused some of this too, but it's hard when you know you're supposed to be submissive to your husband but in the back of your mind you know that he isn't leading your family under the submission of the Holy Ghost or the will of God, but rather his carnal ways of thinking. It's hard to be supportive of my husband, when I know who he used to be and who he has become. He is giving money to beer and lottery and not the kingdom of God. I appreciate everyones post, and as someone mentioned, no one here knows my exact situation so i should take post with a grain of salt. Surely, God will bring my husband back to a place of conviction and repentance.

I don't mean this in a critical way but it sounds as though the church he came from was a very very strict church. Don't blame yourself or anyone for that matter as blame never really helps but usually just hurts.

Important is not to nag him over it or constantly raise the issue if he is not receptive. That will just make things worse