Your experience when you dropped "dress standards"

[rgcraig]

Originally Posted by Rico

Sister, in churches where preachers use fear to get their point across, the people use fear when dealing with others. In churches where the preacher doesn't use fear tactics, the people don't use them either. People follow the example laid out for them. It's only natural for them to do so. See what I'm getting at?

I do, I was just making a counter point.

I didn't grow up in a church where the pastor was like that, however, the pressure was there because it was an outward sign of your spirituality, which fostered judmental attitudes.

I obeyed things I didn't agree with out of respect for others. I will still do that if I know someone is going to be offended.