Why would a Pastor do this to me ?

[StillStanding]

Originally Posted by CC1

One thing I don't get is all of the angst from some of the crazy things a few extreme pastors do.

I am not a church jumper. I attended only two churches over a 25 year period and only made that change because my job moved me.

However, if a pastor did some of the nutty things I read on this forum that hurts people and is definitely not biblical, out of line, and over the top. I would leave that church in a flash and find one with a godly pastor with the heart of a shepherd and priest.

When you let nutjob control freaks affect your life in a major way as some people let happen you are just as wrong as they are letting it happen or not removing yourself immediately from the situation and going to a healthy one.

Now I know many times it is not that easy as family members and friends are involved but I still feel it is wrong to give these people that much control over your life, happiness, walk with God, etc.

You will never find the perfect pastor or church but you certainly don't have to settle for submitting yourself to a train wreck.

I believe submitting yourself to a pastor is kind of like submitting yourself to your spouse. You're committed to them, but if they become controlling and abusive, you need to find help. Sometimes a direct talk with them makes things even worse!

We all like to believe that our spouses are a perfect match for us. A good relationship takes BOTH people working hard to make things work! Sometimes, a complete break is necessary and healthy for both parties!