Why would a Pastor do this to me ?

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by CC1

One thing I don't get is all of the angst from some of the crazy things a few extreme pastors do.

I am not a church jumper. I attended only two churches over a 25 year period and only made that change because my job moved me.

However, if a pastor did some of the nutty things I read on this forum that hurts people and is definitely not biblical, out of line, and over the top. I would leave that church in a flash and find one with a godly pastor with the heart of a shepherd and priest.

When you let nutjob control freaks affect your life in a major way as some people let happen you are just as wrong as they are letting it happen or not removing yourself immediately from the situation and going to a healthy one.

Now I know many times it is not that easy as family members and friends are involved but I still feel it is wrong to give these people that much control over your life, happiness, walk with God, etc.

You will never find the perfect pastor or church but you certainly don't have to settle for submitting yourself to a train wreck.

I understand what you are saying. I can't totally agree on always leaving. Sometimes God wants us to stay, see the situation through and be a stabilizing factor when he moves a man like this.

There are times that He gives the saint direction to leave, as He knows how much they can bear.

I remember pleading with God over a situation and why He wouldn't do something. He spoke to me in prayer, "I cannot execute my wrath speedily."

I was relieved to hear that because that meant He would use that same perspective in my life as well! In that particular situation, He moved us. We couldn't wait the nine years for things to change. Others were able, but God saw that our family couldn't handle it and gave us direction to leave.

You are aware of one situation where we were directed to stay and see it through.

I adamantly feel that we MUST, at all costs and for all purposes, follow the will of God. We cannot make these decisions for ourselves.

He knows where I need to be and what he needs to put in me, change in me, etc. If I jump and run, without His direction, I will have lost learning some major things in my life to become what He had always intended for me.