UPCI pastor resigns amid teen sex charges

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Originally Posted by scotty

You see , while the man may have been manipulative, in this case as others like it, there has to be a point in time when the girl says to herself "this is ok". The problem is, more and more, younger and younger girls are believing, "this is ok". Even in the church, its ok. We have to address this instead of looking the other way. This man was wrong, but someone has to ask the questions, "why did you text back","why did you sneak out to go have sex with him". If the parents could give us the answers that this girl gives them, I think many here would be suprised and just as sick.

Are there cases where the girl has no options ? Yes, its called rape. But we have to ask ourselves the question and be honest with our answers. Why are these girls saying yes? Why are they wanting it? and most of all, Why do they believe that its ok?

If we could answer those questions with real solutions, then men like this would be out of luck. If we dont want people to get high, get rid of the dope. Dont want drunks, address the alcohol. Once we get the backbone to figure out how to address our childrens outlook on sex, then we take away the venue these sick men play upon. But you cant address a problem until you can admit there is one.

Yes , this is a sick man and should be held responsible for his actions. But we have to address the other side instead of just saying poor pitiful her, pat her on the back and say a prayer.

Scotty,

I understand what you are saying, but I don't think you are seeing the picture clearly. Please delete what you wrote about your daughter. She was 15 years old and deserves to be protected. Please don't put this on the internet. She was duped and taken advantage of. And, it doesn't make it too much better, but the youth minister was 22. This pastor is in his fourties.