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Originally Posted by scotty
Im not blaming her, thats the point you are missing. I am blaming... i dont know, i guess a society that doesnt see this as a problem.
Willing means exactly what it says. She was willing to do this. She was willing before him and even after him she was willing to have sex again and did. This is the problem I am addressing. Yes, some girls are manipulated or brainwashed, I understand and believe that, but I also know that many girls just see it as a part of their life or something that is perfectly ok to do.
And believe me , she is perfectly fine, she is 20 now and to this day she will tell you she done nothing wrong because it is her life and her perogative. Thats what you dont understand, your trying to protect someone who doesnt want your protection. They dont want you to call them the victim because they made the decision on their own. She refused to press charges, not because she loved him but because "it was my choice, I wanted to".
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Scotty, your daughter is acting pretty normally for what has happened. Just for the record, I worked as a domestic violence advocate for a year and a half. I also worked with sexually abused victims during that time. Although this does not make me an expert, I can say with a pretty good amount of certainty that you are thoroughly confused about what happened with your daughter, why it happened, and why she continues to act the way she does. You need to gain understanding. I will say she was probably attracted to the 22 year old.
She is NOT perfectly fine. She was victimized and taken advantage of. Society is at fault, yes. I agree with that. Society teaches both males and females wrong values. So, blame society, but understand your daughter is still totally confused. Sex abuse victims almost ALWAYS blame themselves. What happened was so traumatic that denial and pretending to be in control is easier.
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