Can church be bad for your health?

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Originally Posted by NotforSale

Even Mr. Graham is off on this one. It's not that easy. In fact, it’s statements like these that destroy the confidence of long standing Christians, and the reason is simple; if I DO what Mr. Graham says, my marriage won’t fail. After time, when the perfect World you tried to build falls apart, God becomes responsible for not holding His end of the bargain, when God had nothing to do with the broken kingdom.

See, Mr. Graham had a successful marriage. He had a blessing. He was fortunate. He found the right mate. When people wind up blessed, they gauge everyone else off of their own successes. In other words, if I can do it, they can do it. This is the Pharisaical approach to Faith and spiritual expectation, breeding self righteousness because we look down on those who don’t do what WE can do.

We are people, and that is why things fail, even if we do everything right. We can coddle, protect, and guide someone, only to find them in a pile of pig dung.

I've been a pastor for 15 years and marital conflict is the most difficult problem we face in Church today.

Children that become adults who have been molested, abused and beaten, or raised by single parents, they can have a host of issues where there is no easy answer. I’ve watched Pastors, Counselors with 30 years of experience, and parents who raised their children with 110% effort, throw their arms up in the air in total dismay as families fell apart.

You can pray until you have broken knees and still wind up divorced.

A couple of points. We no longer see people say that divorce is not an option. Most folks don't have conflict resolution tools and commitments.
Marriage is a covenant for few people. A divorce creates a new set of conflicts.

I will point out a couple of errors. Every marriage thinks the picked the right one. So they all started the same place.

success in marriage is dependent on commitment and not on selection. Poor Hosea was told by God to marry a trollop.