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Re: Modesty Myth
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Originally Posted by Pressing-On
I would be more concerned with a man giving himself "outward" permission to behave badly. Because, I think that by his nature, keeping it to himself "internally" shows greater restraint.
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I guess I'm not making my point clear. I mean, when a woman doesn't give him direct or tacit permission, but he gives himself internal permission to behave badly outwardly because of how the woman presents herself.
Bad behavior starts with an inward decision that it's acceptable. I'm not talking about having involuntary thoughts and responses and then bringing them under control. That's fine--and admirable. If, instead of squashing those thoughts, you then decide that it's okay to act accordingly because the woman in front of you isn't respectable, then that is giving yourself internal permission to behave badly.
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