If the wife is uncomfortable with the situation, the husband should be willing to cut off communication with the ex-girlfriend. If he's not willing to stop the communication, the wife has her answer as to which relationship means more to her husband-- and should act accordingly. JMHO.
I agree with this because I think it is important for a man to cherish his wife and try to understand her feelings of insecurity in any situation. He should keep his distance. Some men are clueless though.
I do know some people who are able to be friendly and communicate with past girlfriends/boyfriends and their wives are ok and secure in their marriage. On the other hand, some are not, some for good reasons.
I went to church with one of my old boyfriends, and his wife did not like his being friendly with me. I saw her discomfort every time he talked to me (as I was now divorced). I am the one who put up a wall, and avoided any contact with him, as I love her as a sister in Christ. They are both linked to me on FB as friends.
As a single woman, I have and do communicate online with men who happen to be married. If a man does not talk about his wife or family in a positive manner within a short time of communication, it sends red flags to me. I ask if the wife is aware or I have actually asked if I could contact their wife. I’ve been burned a few times, so I am cautious (I think anyway). Most men who ever contact me, are happily married and conversation is filled with wife and family…and that is the way it should be.
what do I know though.... I am supposedly one of those desperate divorcees according to Walks_in_islam. NOT
My wife logs on to my facebook acct now and then, to work my farm. I don't do the farming thing, but she needed another neighbor. Just the other day, I joked "sure hope none of my girlfriends start a chat while you're on there!"
I am soooo glad I am not the only one that does this!
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Love is patient, love is kind, Love does not insist on its own way. Love bears all things, believes all things,
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Timmy's wife and me have some great conversations on facebook!
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Be content with what you have, for God has said, "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you." So say with confidence, "The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid." Hebrews 13:5,6
Love is patient, love is kind, Love does not insist on its own way. Love bears all things, believes all things,
Hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.
- I Corinthians 13:4-8
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